So my neighbor died a few nights ago.
Just out-of-the-blue, unexpectedly collapsed. And was gone before emergency responders arrived.
Survived by a wife–eight months pregnant–and five and three year old daughters.
He was early 30s, like me. Drove a desk for work. Like me. Walked frequently. Unlike me.
Millions of seemingly less healthy people live longer than he did.
Brings up the question “Why?” Although I’m not sure bitterly throwing that question at whatever divinity you may (not) believe in is useful. Tone matters. Even if you’re throwing the question into what you believe is an empty void.
“Why?” when emotionally affected tends to be negative, bitter, and faithless. “What can I learn?” is better. It assumes acceptance of the negativity, and then turns the attitude toward progress and growth.
What can I learn?
Love fully. Don’t waste time (or money) on things that don’t matter. Your things don’t matter. People matter. Have experiences and share love with people.
Take nothing for granted. My neighbor lost a husband. You could lose a job. You could lose a car. You could lose a house. All are opportunities to turn “Why?” into “What can I learn?”